I recently posted how you can support your wife, but now we wives need to learn a few things we can do to support our husbands.
1) Don’t nag
I know what you’re thinking. ”I don’t nag.” Believe me, you do. I’m a control freak at times. If he doesn’t do it right or doesn’t start on the task immediately I feel the need to tell him so. We have to stop it. If you’re not sure if he heard you, ask if he hears you instead of repeating yourself. If he didn’t do something the way you would like ask yourself if it’s something you can live with. If not tell him you are thankful he did what he did, but you would prefer it if he did it this way.
2) Let him have guys night
How many times do you think, ”I just need a break”? Guys are thinking the same thing. They may blow off steam differently than us, but they still need that time. So fix them some burgers and go have a special day with your kids.
3) Support his ambitions
You’re your husband’s biggest cheerleader. Men’s ideas get put down all the time, just like ours do. They simply hide it better. Let your husband know he’s doing a good job. Show interest in his ambitions and even invest in them.
4) Don’t assume he knows
This is another one of my biggest flaws. I tend to think, “Why would he do that? He knows it bothers me.” But why do we assume that he knows? Your husband loves you and isn’t going to do anything to upset you. Instead of assuming, ask. Either he doesn’t know or sees it from a different perspective than you.
5) Learn to speak his love language
Every person is different. We each speak a different love language. A love language is simply the kind of acts that make a person feel loved. There are five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. I highly suggest every couple read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. You can find a copy here.
6) Let him take responsibility
I know he may do things differently than you, and the towels may not be folded exactly right, but this is something you both need. You need a break, and he needs to take responsibility for his half. We are not able to do it all, and he is capable of playing house and parenting your children. Wanting to control our husbands is a problem we women have had sense biblical time when Eve sinned and we were cursed to want to control our husbands. Remember that next time you want to stop him from taking responsibility.
7) Give him time with your child
Your husband and child need time to bond. If they don’t spend time together how is your husband supposed to know what size clothes he’s in, what his favorite toys are, or what’s going on in their life.
8) Fix his coffee
Fix his coffee when he’s running behind. Give him a massage after a long day. Have supper ready when he gets home. Tell him he’s doing a good job. Do little things that show you care.
9) Plan a date night (that he’d enjoy)
Our relationships need us to nurture them. A good way to do this are dates. Most of the time though, dates are commercialized and pushed towards women. Do things your husband would like. Go watch the latest Avengers. Go to the rodeo. Go watch the race. Go to his favorite restaurant, or even just stay in and play video games. One thing I like to do is is each write down 10 date ideas we want to do, fold them, put them in a cup, and pull one out the day before your date night. You never know what you’re going to get and it is 50/50 which you’ll get.
10) Let him be emotional
In today’s world men are taught not to have emotions. They are taught that men don’t cry, men aren’t scared, men aren’t sad, etc. when this is not true. We are all humans given emotions by God. Be your man’s safe space. Let him be comfortable showing his emotions to you.
I hope these tips help you support your husband! Leave a comment on how you support your spouse.
The Modern Christian Mom 